Welcome to the Mentoring Program!
Perhaps you're one of the many people in our church family who has thought, "I could sure use the wisdom and insight of an older, more experienced believer in my life right now." And yet, perhaps for lack of opportunity, you haven't experienced that kind of relationship with anyone. On the other hand, perhaps you're an older, more experienced believer who has a passion to reach out to younger believers to help inspire and encourage them in their faith - to humbly "pass the baton."
Either way, our prayer is that this tool will facilitate one-on-one mentoring in our church family. Very similar to our "Encourage" program, the mentoring program is focused specifically on allowing an older believer to invest into a younger believer through accountability, prayer, targeted discussion/teaching and a love for God's Word. (See below.) This program is initiated by the younger person voluntarily seeking out an older person in the church. (Note: We don't maintain a "list" of mentors or people wanting to be mentored. Recommended for high school age and above.)
"Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored." Titus 2:2-5
Encouraging Questions/Topics to Guide Your Time Together (about 60 min.)
The first meeting is more casual—get to know each other! Do take time cover the first three points and the last point below, but save the other points for the following 5 meetings. Again, use this first meeting to connect and catch up on life. Here's the standard agenda for everyone to follow:
“Key Elements of Christianity” Topics
"If you only had 10 minutes to share your heart and passion with me on this subject, what would you say?" This time is focused on the mentor sharing with the younger believer. The mentor should come prepared to give clear, well-prepared, Scripture-based, humble answers to the following questions. (It's usually best if your advice can be summed up into a few easily written points and related Scriptures. Discuss various Scriptures, personal testimony, common mistakes and wrong thinking, practical steps of action, etc.) The person being mentored should take notes. Here are the 5 answers that all teams should cover (one topic per meeting, in this order):
Additional Topics (if both parties prefer to continue meeting beyond the 3 months):
Keep it personal! Don't just recite someone else's thoughts. Be open. Be committed. Expect God to do great things in both of your lives.
* Older men should mentor younger men, and older women should mentor younger women.
** Remember that the mentor is not speaking on behalf of DBC. They are sharing their personal experiences, thoughts, opinions, and interpretations of Scripture. The person being mentored should always filter everything they hear through Scripture. If you have questions or concerns, you are welcome to approach other believers or the elders of the church for counsel.
"So how do I get started?"
Pray... and then ask someone you look up to if they would mentor you using this program! If they agree, honor their investment into your life by taking notes during the "Key Elements" and "Current Issues" time. Pray for them, too, and share your insights in return. Don't hide your weaknesses. Grow together. Even mentoring is a two-way street!
If you're participating in or are excited about the mentoring program, feel free to join this group!
When you're done with your three months, you are welcome to approach another "older" believer and repeat the process! Consider doing this at least 1 or 2 times per year. Over time, you will be blessed with the wise counsel of many brothers/sisters in Christ.
"Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counselors they succeed." Proverbs 15:22