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Welcome to the Mentoring Program!

Perhaps you're one of the many people in our church family who has thought, "I could sure use the wisdom and insight of an older, more experienced believer in my life right now." And yet, perhaps for lack of opportunity, you haven't experienced that kind of relationship with anyone. On the other hand, perhaps you're an older, more experienced believer who has a passion to reach out to younger believers to help inspire and encourage them in their faith - to humbly "pass the baton."

Either way, our prayer is that this tool will facilitate one-on-one mentoring in our church family. Very similar to our "Encourage" program, the mentoring program is focused specifically on allowing an older believer to invest into a younger believer through accountability, prayer, targeted discussion/teaching and a love for God's Word. (See below.) This program is initiated by the younger person voluntarily seeking out an older person in the church. (Note: We don't maintain a "list" of mentors or people wanting to be mentored. Recommended for high school age and above.)

"Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored." Titus 2:2-5

Program Details

  • For both men and women
  • Meet for about 60 minutes, 2x/month for 3 months (6 meetings total)
  • Meet whenever and wherever you want
  • Be committed to the meeting purpose/agenda
  • Of course, either person is free to step out of the program at any time as needed

Encouraging Questions/Topics to Guide Your Time Together (about 60 min.)

The first meeting is more casual—get to know each other! Do take time cover the first three points and the last point below, but save the other points for the following 5 meetings. Again, use this first meeting to connect and catch up on life. Here's the standard agenda for everyone to follow:

  • Catch Up (5m):  Small talk. Catch up on the last two weeks.
  • Daily Devotions (10m):  Both people answer, "How has God spoken to you through His Word the past two weeks?"
  • Christian Reading (5m):  Both people answer: "What good Christian articles/books are you reading? What are you learning?"
  • Key Elements of Christianity (20m):  The one mentoring shares their advice for 10-15 minutes on the topics listed below, then the person being mentored can ask questions and have discussion for the following 5-10 minutes.
  • Advice for Current Issues (10m, if time allows. "Key Elements" may take higher priority if the one being mentored prefers to spend more time there.) The person being mentored can share current, pressing issues in their life (on any topic) and ask for counsel. (Tip: If possible, email your question to your mentor at least 3 days in advance so they can bring more well-prepared advice.)
  • Prayer (10m):  Both people share personal prayer requests that are not typically shared in a large group.

“Key Elements of Christianity” Topics

"If you only had 10 minutes to share your heart and passion with me on this subject, what would you say?" This time is focused on the mentor sharing with the younger believer. The mentor should come prepared to give clear, well-prepared, Scripture-based, humble answers to the following questions. (It's usually best if your advice can be summed up into a few easily written points and related Scriptures. Discuss various Scriptures, personal testimony, common mistakes and wrong thinking, practical steps of action, etc.) The person being mentored should take notes. Here are the 5 answers that all teams should cover (one topic per meeting, in this order):

  • Personal Bible Study & Prayer:  How might I approach God's Word during my personal study so that it changes the way I think and live? How can I better experience the reality of talking with God through prayer?
  • Decisions:  How can I determine God's will for life's big decisions (and the little ones)?
  • Evangelism:  How can I better fulfill my calling to share the gospel one-on-one?
  • Singleness, Marriage & Moral Purity:  What are the "pillars" that guide(d) you during this stages in life?
  • Church Family:  How can I connect with and be a vibrant part of my church family? Why is church family so important?

Additional Topics (if both parties prefer to continue meeting beyond the 3 months):

  • Prioritizing Life:  How to keep the main thing the main thing (share your life priorities, why you have them, and how you keep them prioritized).
  • Personal Holiness:  How to seek God and still respect others as you set (and live out) your own personal "standards" for Christian living.
  • Employment: Finding and keeping a good job, trusting God as you work hard, lessons you've learned, etc.
  • Financial Stewardship:  Frugality, borrow or save, credit, etc.
  • And anything else you'd like to receive Scripture-based counsel for.
    (The above "additional topics" do not have to be covered in this order. They are only suggestions.)

Keep it personal! Don't just recite someone else's thoughts. Be open. Be committed. Expect God to do great things in both of your lives.

* Older men should mentor younger men, and older women should mentor younger women.

** Remember that the mentor is not speaking on behalf of DBC. They are sharing their personal experiences, thoughts, opinions, and interpretations of Scripture. The person being mentored should always filter everything they hear through Scripture. If you have questions or concerns, you are welcome to approach other believers or the elders of the church for counsel.

"So how do I get started?"

Pray... and then ask someone you look up to if they would mentor you using this program! If they agree, honor their investment into your life by taking notes during the "Key Elements" and "Current Issues" time. Pray for them, too, and share your insights in return. Don't hide your weaknesses. Grow together. Even mentoring is a two-way street!

If you're participating in or are excited about the mentoring program, feel free to join this group!

When you're done with your three months, you are welcome to approach another "older" believer and repeat the process! Consider doing this at least 1 or 2 times per year. Over time, you will be blessed with the wise counsel of many brothers/sisters in Christ.

"Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counselors they succeed." Proverbs 15:22